14 Regler For Platonisk Venskab Og Kærlighed

2024 Forfatter: Cecilia Ryder | [email protected]. Sidst ændret: 2023-12-17 14:20

Det er helt fantastisk at have en bedste ven af det modsatte køn. Det åbner ikke kun et vindue til bedre at forstå det andet køn, men hjælper dig også med at vokse som person. Det kommer dog med sine mangler. Der er en tynd linje mellem at være en kompis og en ven, du dybest set er i et platonisk forhold til og udvikle følelser for dem.

Men pas på - det fører sjældent til noget godt. Enten ender du med at ødelægge venskabet og få dit hjerte ødelagt eller føle dig forvirret som helvede. Der er et par måder at forhindre dette i - og vi vil fortælle dig hvordan!

Følg disse 14 regler for platonisk venskab og kærlighed for at holde båndet mellem dig og din ven uskyldig og stærk for evigt klar? Lad os rulle.

Regler for platonisk venskab

1. Flirt aldrig med en ven

Flirting kan virke harmløs, men det kan skade meget. Hvis du værdsætter det venskab, du begge har, skal du ikke sende dem “signalerne” bare for at få lidt opmærksomhed og føle sig godt tilpas med dig selv. To ting kan ske - han kan blive bange for, at dette bliver til noget andet og bolter, eller han kan gengælde. Sidstnævnte er fint, hvis du kan lide ham, men hvis du ikke gør det - godt, vil du miste en ven.

2. Opret grænser

Der er visse ting, der skal holdes klare i et platonisk forhold. Det er vigtigt at vide, hvor man kan stoppe jer. At undgå situationer, der kan antænde lidenskab, er, hvor grænser er til stor hjælp. At undgå at overnatte hos din ven eller blive voldsom beruset på en fest om aftenen, du deltog med dem, kan redde jer begge fra at bryde reglerne for et platonisk forhold.

3. Vær respektfuld over for sin partner såvel som din

Først og fremmest er respekt for sin partner meget vigtig. Ellers kan ting blive virkelig rodet i dit forhold til din platoniske ven. At vise gestus med respekt over for din egen partner foran din platoniske ven er også det bedste, du kan gøre for at styrke din bånd. Samtidig er det godt for din ligning med ham at få din ven til at føle sig godt tilpas foran din partner.

4. Ingen seksuel kontakt

Dette er en no-brainer. Hvis han er din ven, er han din ven. Du skal ikke blive rørt ved ham. Dette er noget, dit venskab aldrig kan komme sig fra. Den vigtigste regel for platonisk venskab og kærlighed er dette - seksuelle handlinger vil ødelægge det for evigt for jer. Der er ikke noget at komme tilbage som venner efter dette. Du skal enten gå videre til et forhold eller bryde op som venner. Hvis du føler, at der er seksuel spænding mellem jer, skal du sidde ned og tænke over det. Er et par øjeblikke af lidenskab værd at opgive venskabet? Du vil vide svaret.

5. Ingen dato-lignende Hangouts. Nogensinde

Skal du virkelig gå på lange køreture, give hinanden gaver og gå på stearinlys-middage sammen, hvis du bare er bedste venner? Nej, nej og nej. Dette er ting, mennesker i relationer eller mennesker, der planlægger at komme ind i en gør. Hvis du bare er venner, skal du hænge sammen på arkader og caféer, især med dine andre venner. Hold intentionerne klare. Der bør ikke være nogen tilbøjelighed til at gøre noget romantisk sammen, fordi det IKKE er beregnet til at være romantisk på nogen som helst måde.

6. Behandl ham på samme måde som dine kærester

Så hvad hvis han er en dreng? Du behøver ikke opføre dig anderledes omkring ham! Du lægger ikke makeup på, når dine pigeknopper kommer forbi, gør du? Hold dig til de samme regler. Ingen påklædning til ham, ingen pleje og gøre specielle ting for ham, ingen gå ud af din måde at være god mod ham. Du er hans kammerat, hans klippe, hans skulder at græde på. Du er hans smerte tante og terapeut, alt sammen rullet sammen til en. Hold det sådan. Nyd dette smukke venskab uden at trække rodet i forholdet ind i det.

7. Spil ikke spil for at få ham til at være sammen med dig

It not only comes across as desperate but is also plain silly. In fact, if he gets even the slightest idea that this is what you are doing, he is going to disappear very quickly. Such girls hardly get any respect. Keep things clear and simple. You are not a child, and he is not a fool. You are deceiving nobody. Playing the “Let’s make him jealous” or the “Shower him with attention and gifts” game can backfire on you big time.

8. Don’t Get Drunk And Cozy With Him

Getting drunk is fine, getting cozy is not. You guys can, of course, go partying together along with your other friends, but don’t turn it into an “I was so drunk I didn’t know what I was doing” kind of night. It will not only be embarrassing the next day but also prompt others to make inappropriate comments about the two of you, which will affect you both in the long term. When in a platonic friendship with someone, make sure that the relationship you both share inspires respect, not ridicule.

9. Never Plan Vacations Together With Just Him And You

Vacations are not only stressful and take a toll on your relationship, but also create situations in which you both can get too intimate. Of course, this doesn’t apply for group vacations in which the entire gang goes somewhere. If you both go on vacations just by yourselves, you are setting up your friendship to fail.

10. Introduce Him To Family And Friends

Introducing him to your family and friends makes it clear that he is your buddy, almost like a bro. This makes the message loud and clear – you love him enough to introduce him to your loved ones. But, it is what it is – and nothing more. He will be perceived more like a sibling than a love interest, and that’s how it should be.

11. Do Not Allow Your Other Friends To Tease You About Him

All that teasing, though harmless, can create unrealistic expectations. You may start developing feelings for him, which may not get reciprocated, thus breaking your heart. Also, it will be awkward if your friends start shipping both of you. You will never be able to have a straight conversation with him without double-checking everything you say. If your friends are teasing you about your platonic friend, tell them you don’t appreciate those kinds of jokes. If they continue doing so, just close off and don’t react to them.

12. Don’t Do Couple-y Things Together

There are so many things that scream “boyfriend-girlfriend,” like gifting flowers, spending Valentine’s Day together, getting soft toys, and giving each other candies and chocolates. These little acts can be misconstrued as something else. These should be reserved for your significant other and not your platonic friend. Avoid gifting stuff except on birthdays and such important events, and keep the “I am thinking of you” vibes to yourself if you want this friendship to flourish and grow stronger.

13. Acknowledge Your Feelings If You Have Them, But Don’t Act On Them

I get it, it can be really difficult to keep your heart in check if you fall for your guy best friend. But, it is not necessary that just because you have a little crush on him, you jeopardize the entire friendship you both have built together. Of course, if he is also showing signs that he is into you, you should go for it.

But if not, there is no need to toss it all in the air and go babble about your feelings to him just because you want to. You could, but you have to realize that you will be putting your friendship at stake. In fact, if you are really close buddies, you can drop him subtle hints to see how he responds. If he HAHAs it away, gather your pride and move on.

14. Don’t Share Private Stuff With Them, Especially About Your Boyfriend

This might be especially difficult if you guys were friends before you got together with your significant other. But, set your priorities straight. It will hurt your boyfriend immensely if he gets to know that you have been discussing him with another guy. Also, it will create unnecessary conflict between both of them and ruin any chances of friendship they may have in the future. Keep your private life private and minimize emotional mess as much as you can.

That’s all you need to know to keep your platonic friendship intact forever. If you have something wonderful, treasure it. Boyfriends come and go, but, darling, friends are forever. Spend your best times with them and make beautiful memories. You will cherish them when you are older. The secret is to never differentiate between them and a girl best friend, and you will be good!